Sex and the Single Woman

| October 16, 2014


It was fairly obvious to me, from the minute I first met Jesus, that Christianity meant signing up to be countercultural. When I told my friends that I believed in Jesus, some of them no longer wanted to be around me. When I shared with my family that I believed God’s design for sexual fulfillment finds its home in marriage, they had a borderline intervention, desperate to convince me that I would never find a healthy relationship if I took sex off the table.

Then I found a new culture that prized purity and made my new worldview feel so "normal" that I couldn’t imagine it any other way. And I almost lived happily ever after. 

Except that, it turns out believing that sexual fulfillment is designed for marriage doesn’t make you any less of a sexual being. Understanding and even loving God’s view of sex doesn’t make you want it less. Singleness presents a series of hardships, but for me learning to live without physical intimacy has provided the biggest challenge and deepest suffering of this season.

I have spent so much time trying to remove the struggle; thinking that the day this didn’t hurt would be the day…


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