6 Costs of Real Friendships

Jen Thorn | September 3, 2015


While doing a study on accountability, I came across some articles about the seriousness of friendship. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about them since.

We tend to use the word “friend” rather carelessly, don’t we? Any person we have a few conversations with, work with, or “like” on Facebook we call a “friend.” This isn’t necessarily bad, but I believe such frivolous usage of the word is making us miss the real meaning of biblical friendship. As J. R. Miller writes, 

To become another’s friend in the true sense is to take the other into such close, living fellowship that his life and ours are knit together as one. It is far more than a pleasant companionship in bright, sunny hours. A genuine friendship is entirely unselfish. It seeks no benefit or good of its own. It does not love—for what it may receive—but for what it may give. Its aim is “not to be served, but to serve” (Mark 10:45). 

Do you know how your “friends” are doing? How are their hearts? The spiritual condition of their souls? If we don’t know how our “friends” are doing in their walks with God, what hard times they’re facing, or what sins they’re fighting, then we have a superficial acquaintance, not…


To read the rest of this article, visit http://www.thegospelcoalition.org/article/6-costs-of-real-friendships.