How to Break Up to the Glory of God

| January 12, 2015

If I had a dime for every time someone has sat on my couch, in tears about a recent breakup, I’d be a rich man. I pastor a young church (the average age is 28). As a general rule of thumb, if you stick a lot of single men and women in the same building, they’re usually going to spend time together and eventually get married. So, having “Whom should I date?” or “Should we get married?” conversations is a fairly normal part of what I do.

Not every relationship ends in marriage. And sadly, Christians can too often look like the world when it comes to breaking up. Ignoring each other. Gossiping about your ex. Longing for the person. Fighting bitterness or fighting to get over the pain of the loss. Giving yourself over to quick peeks at his or her Facebook page or Instagram account. (Has he moved on? Or is she still hurting just like me?)

If the gospel of Jesus really makes a difference, it should show itself in the worst of moments. But if Christian dating looks no different from the world, our faith shows itself to be relatively useless.

What would it…

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