Parents, Spare Not the Rod of Comfort

Irene Sun | June 22, 2016

I discipline you because I love you. I discipline you because you are mine.

I heard these words years ago when my husband disciplined our oldest son for the first time. I wept in the next room. It was a day of tremendous pain—and growth—for us as young parents. In training our child to obey, we were learning to obey our heavenly Father. But it was hard.

No book, song, or curriculum can bring children nearer to God than parents seeking to be conformed to Christ’s image. We are God’s witnesses to our children, the visible faces of our invisible God.

And parents are given the rod—the disciplining of children—as a peculiar means to bear witness to God’s love for them. The Lord disciplines his children whom he loves, “as a father the son in whom he delights” (Prov. 3:12).

Likewise, we are commanded to love our children by disciplining them: “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him” (Prov. 23:24). And we are commanded to discipline because in that “there is hope” (Prov. 19:18).


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