The Unbearable Burden of Uniqueness

Derek Rishmawy | September 9, 2015

Life can be lonely and painful at times. Indeed, one of the great pains of life is the experience of loneliness. Before sin entered, God said it was “not good” for Adam to be alone (Gen. 2:18) and so he gave him a companion—someone to share his bread, his life, his task in the world. One of the immediate effects of sin, though, was to divide the man and the woman (Gen. 3:12). Alienation from God leads to alienation from each other.

Most of us have known that pain. That bittersweet moment after a personal victory when you realize there’s nobody to share it with. Or worse, that hour of tragedy when it seems there’s no one to call.

It’s even worse when you’re “unique.” In Instruments in The Redeemer’s Hands, Paul Tripp explains the way feeling like that special snowflake can go bad and keep our relationships perennially casual and impotent as sources of comfort and change:

Another reason we keep things casual is that we buy the lie that we are unique and struggle in ways that no one else does. We get tricked by people’s public personas and forget that behind closed doors they live real lives just like us. We forget that…

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